It's Honestly None of Your Business


One of the most common questions I hear people ask God is “Why?”

Why am I still in this season? Why am I at this job? Why am I still single? Why did this tragedy happen to me or my family? Why did this person hurt me? Why can’t I have more? Why don’t I fit in? Why am I different? Why is my spouse changing? Why are my kids misbehaving? Why are my finances so tight? Why am I here (what is my purpose)?

The reality is…we don’t always know the answers to this question. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but honestly, it’s none of your business. [I’m sure some of you are about to stop reading, but stick with me for a moment].

First, let’s talk about the 4 D’s of God’s Guidance. Then, I’ll break down why I say “it’s none of your business.”

God’s 4 D’s of Guidance:

1.      Discernment Most of the decisions we make are not spelled out in the Bible. Discernment is how we follow God’s leading through the process of being spiritually sensitive and applying biblical truth to our situation. Note: Discernment is a gift that you obtain when you hit a place of spiritual maturity. Romans 12:2 describes this: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

2.     Direction This is simply what God does for us by giving us the commands and teachings of the Bible. They direct us specifically on what to do and what not to do. This is the most challenging step for Christians. We know the word, recite the word, and read the word, but we don’t live the Word. We decide to take our own direction, and then we find ourselves like Joshua laying down, crying, blaming God for the situation that we’re in. We were never supposed to be there anyway!

3.     Decree (official order) God sovereignly decrees and designs circumstances so that we end up where he wants us to be even if we don’t have any conscious part in getting there. For example, Paul and Silas found themselves in jail, and the result was the salvation of the jailer and his household (Acts 16:24-34). This was God’s plan, but not Paul’s. God does this often—putting us in places that we did not plan or decide to be.

4.     Declaration This is the least common means of God’s leading, yet this is what we seek the most. Declaration happens when He simply declares to us what we should do. For example, according to Acts 8:26, “An angel of the Lord spoke to Philip saying, ‘Arise and go south to the road that descends from Jerusalem to Gaza.’” And according to Acts 8:29, “The Spirit said to Philip, ‘Go up and join this chariot.’”

It’s when you meditate on this information when you realize that “why” something happens has nothing to do with you. It’s none of your business—in fact, your only business is to respond in a way that reflects your relationship with Christ. You should not worry yourself trying to figure out God’s big plans. Instead, invest that energy into rejoicing in God’s plan. Your job is not to write your own destiny; instead, tend to the responsibilities that God has rightfully given you.

Here’s my 5 day challenge for you. Read each scripture and ask yourself the question(s) that follow. Write this information down, meditate on it, and if you feel comfortable share this information with a Brother/Sister in Christ. I hope this word has been a blessing to you!

Day 1: Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6 (NIV)

Apply It! How does this verse apply to your life and what will you do about it? What are 3 things about yourself (your life) that you are confident about? Do you involve God in these 3 things?

Day 2: Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. Philippians 1:27a (NIV)

Apply It! How does this verse apply to your life and what will you do about it? How do you respond to conflict, turmoil, or frustration? How do you respond to hurt? How involved is God in those responses?

 Day 3: For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. Philippians 2:13 (NLT)

Apply It! How does this verse apply to your life and what will you do about it?

 Day 4: . . . I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Philippians 3:12b (NIV)

Apply It! How does this verse apply to your life and what will you do about it?

Day 5: Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 (NIV)

Apply It! How does this verse apply to your life and what will you do about it? What is currently producing anxiety in your life? How much control have you released to God in this specific area?

NOTE: If you miss a day, don’t let that discourage you. Just pick up with the current day and keep moving forward. Don’t let yesterday’s famine rob today of its feast.

Nichelle WhitneyComment