Tongues, Living, and Marriage

(This post originally appeared on blog site, a subsidiary of Candace A. Jones Ministries)

What does tongues, living, & marriage have to do with each other? Check the Word.

20 A man's belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. 

21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  

22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. (Proverbs 18:20-22, KJV)

Before my husband found me, he had to take some other steps first. Marriage is more than sex or two people loving each other and deciding to do life together. It is indeed pleasurable, but there is a degree of necessary sacrificial dying that must occur along with compromising and working together as one. Falando had to ensure his words were of faith, and he kept speaking life into and to me. He knew what he desired, and he knew what it took to get and keep me—life is what filled his mouth and flowed from his lips.

Our lives follow our words. Too many people don't understand or believe this. Whatever you think and say about yourself is what and who you are. Please get this in your spirit and your soul.

Notice the wife verse. Before Falando could find me and assess that I am his wife, I had to be walking in a place of knowing I was already a wife. A “wifey” is not a wife. “Wife material” is not a wife. Knowing that God created me for a purpose, which included one day being someone's wife, placed me in a position to be found by my husband. “To obtain favor from the Lord,” meant that he found me, in Christ—I am his good thing and I bring him favor from the Lord. I couldn't have been living a double life. I had to be walking and living, talking and being worthy of the role. And thank God He had me ready!

Perhaps your life and/or marriage suck. Remember, there is nothing too hard for the Lord to turn around and transform. It begins with a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. If you already have that, then I challenge you to speak the Word, speak life, over the details of your life and marriage, and keep on speaking. God is faithful to keep His Word. Let the Word work in the midst of it all, and keep trusting. God has a plan and purpose, but you have to get to know Him as intimately as He knows you to find it out and walk in it.